Communication In This Dancery

Take a skim read through my CV and you'll see 'Communication' listed under the skills section. Funny thing is I've recently realised how bad I am at communicating. I even study Media and Communication ffs.

So I've found myself in a situation where I don't have an immediate friendship circle anymore, I haven't spoken to people I used to speak to everyday for like 8 months.

There's kind of this assumption that as we grow older people are busier and communication decreases, just a part of life really. Which is true but does not apply in this circumstance.

More like situations happened, things went unsaid and feelings we're bottled in and now the relationship is different but the other person just can't seem to put their finger on it. And even if it's their fault and they hurt your feelings, you're at fault too because you didn't address it and let them know how you feel. You didn't take responsibility.

This is actually a really bad thing to do but I know quite a few people other than myself who do this and to be honest, it's actually immature

and before you say...

"Well, I shouldn't teach you how to be a friend" or "If you don't know what you did wrong then you're clearly the problem".

I've learned that most of us underestimate how our actions can affect those around us, especially those we're close to. Something you do that you don't spare a second thought to could really hurt someone else unintentionally.

For your own sake though, if you are said 'hurt person', speak up and let that person know what they did isn't okay.

So that's what I'm going to do lol. Gonna sit a few people down and read them for filth.

Joking.

But seriously, I'm gonna address a few issues, not necessarily to mend any bridges or anything but just for my own peace of mind.

How will this go down is the question?

Will this result in beef? Will it result in kisses and rainbows? I'll keep you guys posted.

Also, worth noting that my communication issues did not appear out of thin air. Opening up to friends and feeling like shit or like I was being dramatic may have had something to do with it.

And just a bit of advice, if your friend is expressing their feelings and concerns to you stay away from the phrases listed below:

"It's not that deep"

"Get over it"

'Well, that's life"

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