Tia Talks

One of the best things I ever did for my mental health was vastly reducing how much I use social media and with the new year approaching, I have been thinking more and more about how certain social media habits can be detrimental. 1. Scrolling Aimlessly Overindulging in other people's posts and scrolling aimlessly through your feed or timeline is rarely a good idea when you're in a dark and lonely place. So please don't do it as you may find yourself comparing your life to a stranger's highlight reel, which is likely to worsen your mood. 2. Overusing Filters Filters are fun here and there but become problematic when you find yourself relying on them and plagued with dysmorphic thoughts. 3. Expecting More When posting on social media, post for your own sake, post the picture because you like it not because you think it will get a healthy number of likes because when it doesn't...you may find yourself disappointed and that's not a cute ...

University was meant to be the best three years of my life according to hearsay and although it wasn't I can acknowledge that in addition to my degree, I left with many life lessons and had become very self-aware. It was during my final year that I had come to the conclusion that despite consciously trying to be an open-minded and a decent human being, there was just something unlikable about me and I was branded as being 'standoffish'. In hindsight I can see that I allowed other people's actions to shape how I saw myself which is very dangerous. See, there's not much danger in being unlikeable, not in this case anyway. However, there is danger in seeking validation from people who shouldn't matter. From people who despite false pretenses are unsure of themselves. So what did I do when I had become aware of the 'unlikable' stench that followed me? Well, I tried to make my personality more digestible, I pretended to be fine with things I wasn't fi...